Sunlight and Stars...

I know I haven't posted for awhile.. but there are 2 new post over there if you like conservative rantings. :)

Good Manners Thursday...

When I was much younger I received some excellent advice from my Dad. "Be kind to everyone, everyone deserves your smiles and consideration. But, choose friends carefully, only choose those boys and girls to be your friends that are the kind of people you'd like to be." In other words people you can respect. I took that advice with only a few miss-steps here and there. Most of the friends I made are still my friends and still doing amazing things.

The word respect however, can become a little confusing especially for kids. So, I loved this article in the Washington Post by Miss Manners Judith Martin (who is pictured here after receiving the National Humanities Medal). Here is a link to the following article that appeared in The Washington Post.

Wednesday, July 2, 2008; Page C07
Dear Miss Manners:
A group of friends and I are having a discussion regarding good manners and respect. My view is that respect comes from understanding and having good manners, whereas it is being put to me that good manners and respect are two distinctly separate things that can be had one without the other. We would be very interested in learning your thoughts on the matter, and I would consider them to be the final word on the subject.

Promising Miss Manners that her word will be the final one, even before you have heard it -- now, that is respect. She thanks you.
Yet she admits that the term "respect" is rather loosely used in the manners business. This leads to the sort of argument in which a parent says, "You have to show more respect for Granny," and the child replies, "Why, since she just got out of jail for petty larceny?"
The sort of respect to which the parent is referring is a part of good manners. It means exhibiting consideration toward everyone and showing special deference to those who are older or in a position of authority.
But the child hears the word to mean the genuine admiration felt for someone who has proved himself to be worthy of it. That sort of respect is, indeed, a thing apart, which etiquette cannot mandate.
Manners require only that people show respect, although with the secret hope that the outward form will become internalized. What people feel as they size up individuals is up to them.

And, I think that sort of respect is awarded by children and by adults only when it is merited.

Spiegel...

Pretty dresses on sale at Spiegel. This one is $25.

Kit Kittredge...

I went to this little show with pretty low expectations since everything else I've seen in the theater this summer has been pretty dumb. This, however, is darling. Go. It's clean as a whistle too. The cast is quite a talented lot and it seems that no expense was spared when it comes to set and costume. Looking at all that stuff from the 30's was pretty fun. The plot and screen play were dramatic, but nothing most 6 year-olds couldn't handle and it has just enough drama for you to enjoy it too. I can't speak for the husbands.. mine had to work so I can't give his opinion.