Tuesday, February 27, 2007
I have to admit that I am still as an adult quite uncomfortable in social situations, even sometimes with good friends. I just get uncomfortable, awkward or something. One thing that I have learned about feeling uncomfortable is that is the time when things often will go wrong. Poor C has seen me dig a hole all the way to China and bury myself in it. I don't mean too, but...
So.. I am trying to do something about this. I love to find books with really good concrete advice. I like this book because it says, "Don't say..." Now that, is helpful. I first saw this book at Anthropologie and I started reading it in the store and then couldn't wait to buy it cheaper elsewhere... I never do that. But, it was worth it. I love this book! And, while it has some basic elementary stuff like, "if you think you need to shower....then you do." Hopefully, I'm past that stage. I liked the section about how to apologize, side step gossip and how to ask for help although I disagree with the book a bit there because I hate people to say to me, "Will you do me a favor?" I would prefer that people say, "Would you please wash my car?" or something else concrete. My new answer to that is going to be, "I like to be helpful, let me know the favor and I'll see if I can help." I mean ideally I'm going to say that, but then you know why I bought this book...
Destination Tokyo is an interesting moving. I think it reflects some of the ideas many Americans still have about war ie. that you fight to save the other guy's country and children as well as your own. The movie also tries to portray a character who is supposedly some kind of womanizer and he is supposed to learn some family values by the end. This plot line did not work for me because while the movie is forever long, there is little time spent in character development and so I didn't really care about this jerk and whether or not he decides family life was for him or not.
The movie is valuable to understand that military service can be lots of boredom followed by too much excitement. And, while I don't know how acurate they made the portrayal of life on a 1944 submarine, the movie did help you to see what risks those men were taking just getting in one of those contraptions. I also thought it was interesting how they portrayed the crews level of education, it seemed low and yet they were determined and brave, but I would be surprised if you didn't find some of the brighter sort running the submarines that are around now. Most of those old war movies could help support a thesis about how the GI Bill educated a nation.
The Bachelor and the Bobby-Soxer is a fun movie that is spoiled for me in a few places by really ugly sexist comments. The female lead is played by Myrna Loy. She plays a judge who ends up with Cary Grant's character in her court room. I was intrigued by this movie because of the whole female judge thing. However, they spoil that by having Cary Grant's character and the uncle character say that she needs, "a good sock in the jaw" or something to that affect 2-3 times.
Shirley Temple is as cute as can be and it's fun to see her play a teenage character. The parts where they insist that Cary Grant take her out are uncomfortable and meant to be and that part works.
Both interesting films, but difficult for me to watch just for entertainments sake. I always wonder how much of what I see there is actually how people thought during those years, or how much of it was twisted by Hollywood, just like movies frequently are now.